Let’s face it, having to say you are sorry means you’ve screwed something up. By their very nature, human beings don’t like to admit that they have goofed.
Okfine, I get that. Apologizing is tough, no question.
Sometimes though, it is necessary. A good thing even.
And apologizing is always, without fail, better than lying.
You see, I understand that people make mistakes. You have done it. I most certainly have done it. We all have. I would much rather hear an honest and sincere, “I’m sorry, I messed up” than be lied to.
When you email me on Saturday and say:
Check to Thompson’s Realty was dispatched to Vaughn Ave address for Monday delivery
then I don’t think it’s unreasonable to expect delivery of said check as promised. It is just a wee bit annoying to be accused of not sending in the proper documentation (which incidentally was sent in two weeks prior), and for the escrow officer to have apparently forgotten the request to wire funds, not hand deliver a pain-in-the-ass-to-deal-with paper check, oh and not to mention sending the wrong amount.
More annoying than all that though is this… Fast forward past the day of promised delivery to Tuesday. After inquiring about the missing delivery, thinking maybe the poor courier was lost and wandering the streets of Phoenix in some fugue state, we get this response:
The following wire has been sent:
Escrow No: xxxxxx
Date: 06/21/2011 02:15 PM
So the ‘check dispatched to Vaughn Ave address for Monday delivery’ was a line of crap. You don’t wire funds on Tuesday afternoon if you set up a dispatch on Saturday for Monday delivery. Rather you hunt down delivery boy and smack him around. You certainly don’t just blow off a multi-thousand dollar check thinking, “eh, it’ll turn up somewhere”. So said delivery was a ruse, or something equally moronic and damaging to your brand’s goodwill.
All this with no explanation, no apology, no nothing.
This bothers me.
It’s not the six day delay in getting paid. That I can deal with.
It’s not the constant, “I’m so busy” excuses. Those I can live with (though they are really annoying).
It’s not the “we never got this document,” accusation. (Followed by yet another, “Oh yes, you’re right. We’ve just been so busy we misplaced it.”)
It’s not sending the incorrect amount. Things happen.
It’s telling me you set up delivery for Monday when clearly you did not. My guess is you were trying to pacify us on Saturday, with the intention of setting up delivery Monday morning, which you forgot to do (probably because you were… so busy). And then you forgot again until we said something on Tuesday.
It would have been far better to have said on Saturday, “I am so sorry. No excuses, I dropped the ball and will take care of it on Monday.” That I could respect.
Of course actually taking care of it on Monday would be a huge plus. But when presented with your transgressions the following day, and being presented with yet another opportunity to apologize, you punted to an administrative assistant that finally did what you should have done almost a week ago and got the funds wired.
Of course the poor overworked and underpaid assistant had no clue of the ineptitude that had been going along since Day 1, so she didn’t even know there was an opportunity — nay a need — for an apology.
What are the impacts of this? Let’s just say that this particular title company won’t be going on our lengthy list of “companies that do a great job”. Instead, they will be relegated to the (fortunately) shorter, yet far more income-limiting “avoid doing business with at all costs” list.
Which list would you prefer your business to be on?
Is it really that hard to say “I’m sorry”?
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