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Having had personal experience with a short sale, I couldn't agree more. The thing to remember, though, is that if you don't handle the problem, the stress could continue for longer than the short sale process.
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You made some good points there.This economy of ours really short sale not the best option .I gotta say, that I read a lot of blogs on a daily basis and for the most part, people lack substance but,I just wanted to make a quick comment to say I’m glad I found your blog. Thanks for sharing.

Yes, good warning and cute post. This economy of ours really puts a strain on just about everything, including marriages. The good thing is at least the opportunity of short sales are still possible. Be sure to get a good agent to help you through with the process, and an agent that you like too makes it a little easier. I live in the Los Angeles area, and whew, stressful times out here to say the least. It really takes tenacity in these times, bravo to all who fight and make it through without too many wrinkles. I tend to think of all this as a journey in life, a little bit of a rough journey at that. Everyone keep your spirits high, this will all pass in time and life will go on usual (I hope).

I am in the process of short selling my house right now. We have the offer and everything. The most important thing you can do is go to a company that has a proven track record of short sells. I reccomend Group4610.com. I think they are only in Arizona but there website has lots of great info to ease your mind, I am sure if you email them they can assist you with people in other states.

MY TIP from the process is if you have any credit cards with the bank you are short selling with, pay off the balance and close them before you start the process. This will help your credit and make sure the bank sends you a letter that says it was closed at customers request. I had two cards and did not know what would happen to them so I cashed out all my points and paid off my balances. I did not close them as this was an experiment for me. The bank closed them(experiment completed) so that will hurt my credit a little more than if I had closed them at my own request.

Live and Learn.

Great article and AMEN! I will definitely refer others to this. That was brutally honest...the picture was well...graphic but makes the point very well!

This is going to be a long trip and you need to do your best to mend fences with your wife now. My concern is the forms that I have seen people sign (just to close, you'll sign anything) that set them up for future deficiency judgments with the lender.
.-= Doug Francis´s last blog ..Helping prepare a 40 year-old home to sell =-.

Great post and acknowledgement of one of the biggest problems when a family gets into desperate financial troubles. When one becomes apathetic about personal finance it is very easy to spill over into other important areas of the relationship. Creating a downward spiral of helplessness.
.-= Evergreen Real Estate´s last blog ..Evergreen Real Estate Values So Far In 2010 =-.

On the flip side living in a house that you can't make the payments is probally even more stressful.

Hey I love the photo - that is awesome!!
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All,

I probably should have mentioned this at the beginning of this post, but now that my short sale story has come to an end yesterday, I can write all about it... which means at least a few more posts on some of the good, bad and ugly things that I just don't hear that many people talking about.

And in my case, the story ends somewhat like a fairytale - but that is probably about 4 or 5 more posts away before you get to see that part.

So be sure to tune in for more short-sale-war-stories that have a fairytale ending soon.

Justin

@Shane,
It is always fun to ask people who are going through the short sale process "hey, how is your wife/husband doing?" because they don't have to say much... I can just see it in their face how they are doing.

@Matt,
Thanks for stopping by - keep helping people. I suspect that 2010 is going to be the year of the short sale in my neighborhood and many other neighborhoods as well.

@Dean,
I am putting you down as a reference on my blogger resume now.

@Shar,
In the focus group that is my neighborhood, there is a difference in strain on a relationship between strategic defaults and people who just plain went broke. I am going to cover that in one of the not-yet-released-but-coming-soon-to-TPREG posts. Great point!

@Gregory,
Thanks for stopping by. Be sure to tune in next time as the story continues! I think you might like the ending, even though it doesn't look really bright for the main characters at the end of Chapter 1.

@Josh,
In the next handful of posts here on TPREG, my goal is to put together a "everything my dad should have told me about short selling my house" type of collection. In my experience the people who have went through it don't want to talk about it much and the people who haven't went through it don't know many of the little things that "no one will tell you about".

And of course, each situation is different...

But crisis + time = humor -- make sure you tell them that part!

@Atlanta Short Sales,
Yep. I too have seen pretty much everything happen to a relationship when financial strain shows up for breakfast one day.

And if it doesn't kill you, hopefully it makes you stronger.

@Alex,
Thanks for stopping by, here is my best relationship advice at 5:30am on a Friday since you asked:

Marriage is kind of like social media. There are no real experts - no matter how many people declare themselves one. Pick out a few tools and try them out. If they work for you, great. If they don't, try a few more.

But in the end - it is really about humans just getting along with humans.
.-= Justin McHood´s last blog ..Resiliency: I See It Everywhere =-.

I can't imagine how difficult it would be to go through. We have worked with a lot of family's that have gone through a short sale and 1 that divorced. It can be difficult [at times] being married to begin with, add the additional stress of the short sale and I can't imagine how hard it would be.

Just passed my 3 year anniversary and I am always looking for advice. Got any? :)
.-= Alex - San Diego Short Sales´s last blog ..Janet Yellen comes to San Diego! =-.

I've dealt with folks who stress out to the max, people who got divorced before the short sale went through, and others who could really care less. I really feel for everyone who has to short sell their house, but I think a strong couple would be drawn closer together in this situation.
.-= Atlanta Short Sale Listings´s last blog ..Over 400 Current Short Sales in Atlanta, GA =-.

Hey Justin -

As the others said, thanks for sharing that personal story with everyone. I'm sorry to hear that this was such a trying experience for you; sadly, many, many other people will have to undergo the same experience if the market continues to do what many of us believe it will do. Most of my closest friends are quite upside down on their property and I foresee quite a few of them undergoing the same trying times. I hope everything turns out for you and your family.

Best, Josh

Sorry to hear of your personal difficulties. I don't think I would blog about mine. Good Luck. I hope there is redemption for those that fall from their stead.

Handled very well, my friend.

I usually tell short sale sellers that they'll probably hate me by the time the short sale is over (because as we all know short sales take much longer than the average person's patience allows for and sellers get tired of me bugging them for the same updated bank statements and pay stubs etc. over and over again). I've not had very deliberate conversations about how they might feel about each other, though. I'll be adding that.

Financial complications are never easy on any relationship but I'd be curious to see if there was a difference in the stress on relationships between a "only-option-other-than-foreclosure" short sale effort vs a "strategic default" short sale. Does the background thought of there being another way pit one person against the other? Food for thought...

Now on to healing that apathy!
.-= Shar Rundio´s last blog ..Happy 98th Birthday, Arizona!!! =-.

Real estate agents I guess need to get their psychology degree too. Next time get an agent who has both, and no, I dont

More serious note, as always another great post McHood. Keep it up, you may actually have a future as a blogger some day.
.-= Dean Ouellette´s last blog ..Top 10 real estate posts of the day for 2/24/2010 =-.

Justin,

Great perspective. Financial challenges as we know are the #1 reason for marital issues. your post hit on THE reason why I love short sales! Its not just another sale, Its an opportunity to help and service a family or individual.

Justin,

I tip my hat to you for pouring it all out there. I guess the hard reality is that no matter how much it makes sense, no matter how obvious the choice to short sell is, it's still going to have a strain within your relationship. Emotions will always surface.

You just did a service to people. At the very least, they know that they aren't the only ones with strain. Just part of the process....

Having had personal experience with a short sale, I couldn't agree more. The thing to remember, though, is that if you don't handle the problem, the stress could continue for longer than the short sale process.
My recent post Video- Japanese man builds 500-000 house in single parking space

You made some good points there.This economy of ours really short sale not the best option .I gotta say, that I read a lot of blogs on a daily basis and for the most part, people lack substance but,I just wanted to make a quick comment to say Iu00e2u0080u0099m glad I found your blog. Thanks for sharing.

This is a wealth of information. Thank you, Really gives not just the info but the perspective. Short sale may not be the best option for everyone, It should always be better for your credit to have had a short sale instead of a foreclosure but then what do we know how good its came in our real life.

Yes, good warning and cute post. This economy of ours really puts a strain on just about everything, including marriages. The good thing is at least the opportunity of short sales are still possible. Be sure to get a good agent to help you through with the process, and an agent that you like too makes it a little easier. I live in the Los Angeles area, and whew, stressful times out here to say the least. It really takes tenacity in these times, bravo to all who fight and make it through without too many wrinkles. I tend to think of all this as a journey in life, a little bit of a rough journey at that. Everyone keep your spirits high, this will all pass in time and life will go on usual (I hope).

I am in the process of short selling my house right now. We have the offer and everything. The most important thing you can do is go to a company that has a proven track record of short sells. I reccomend Group4610.com. I think they are only in Arizona but there website has lots of great info to ease your mind, I am sure if you email them they can assist you with people in other states.

MY TIP from the process is if you have any credit cards with the bank you are short selling with, pay off the balance and close them before you start the process. This will help your credit and make sure the bank sends you a letter that says it was closed at customers request. I had two cards and did not know what would happen to them so I cashed out all my points and paid off my balances. I did not close them as this was an experiment for me. The bank closed them(experiment completed) so that will hurt my credit a little more than if I had closed them at my own request.

Live and Learn.

Great article and AMEN! I will definitely refer others to this. That was brutally honest...the picture was well...graphic but makes the point very well!

This is going to be a long trip and you need to do your best to mend fences with your wife now. My concern is the forms that I have seen people sign (just to close, you'll sign anything) that set them up for future deficiency judgments with the lender.
.-= Doug Francisu00c2u00b4s last blog ..Helping prepare a 40 year-old home to sell =-.

Great post and acknowledgement of one of the biggest problems when a family gets into desperate financial troubles. When one becomes apathetic about personal finance it is very easy to spill over into other important areas of the relationship. Creating a downward spiral of helplessness.
.-= Evergreen Real Estateu00c2u00b4s last blog ..Evergreen Real Estate Values So Far In 2010 =-.

On the flip side living in a house that you can't make the payments is probally even more stressful.

very very nice post

Hey I love the photo - that is awesome!!
.-= Carmen Brodeuru00c2u00b4s last blog ..Do You Really Need a Full Golf Membership to Enjoy Desert Mountain? =-.

All,

I probably should have mentioned this at the beginning of this post, but now that my short sale story has come to an end yesterday, I can write all about it... which means at least a few more posts on some of the good, bad and ugly things that I just don't hear that many people talking about.

And in my case, the story ends somewhat like a fairytale - but that is probably about 4 or 5 more posts away before you get to see that part.

So be sure to tune in for more short-sale-war-stories that have a fairytale ending soon.

Justin

Shane,
It is always fun to ask people who are going through the short sale process "hey, how is your wife/husband doing?" because they don't have to say much... I can just see it in their face how they are doing.

,
Thanks for stopping by - keep helping people. I suspect that 2010 is going to be the year of the short sale in my neighborhood and many other neighborhoods as well.

Dean,
I am putting you down as a reference on my blogger resume now.

@Shar,
In the focus group that is my neighborhood, there is a difference in strain on a relationship between strategic defaults and people who just plain went broke. I am going to cover that in one of the not-yet-released-but-coming-soon-to-TPREG posts. Great point!

@Gregory,
Thanks for stopping by. Be sure to tune in next time as the story continues! I think you might like the ending, even though it doesn't look really bright for the main characters at the end of Chapter 1.

Josh,
In the next handful of posts here on TPREG, my goal is to put together a "everything my dad should have told me about short selling my house" type of collection. In my experience the people who have went through it don't want to talk about it much and the people who haven't went through it don't know many of the little things that "no one will tell you about".

And of course, each situation is different...

But crisis + time = humor -- make sure you tell them that part!

@Atlanta Short Sales,
Yep. I too have seen pretty much everything happen to a relationship when financial strain shows up for breakfast one day.

And if it doesn't kill you, hopefully it makes you stronger.

,
Thanks for stopping by, here is my best relationship advice at 5:30am on a Friday since you asked:

Marriage is kind of like social media. There are no real experts - no matter how many people declare themselves one. Pick out a few tools and try them out. If they work for you, great. If they don't, try a few more.

But in the end - it is really about humans just getting along with humans.
.-= Justin McHoodu00c2u00b4s last blog ..Resiliency: I See It Everywhere =-.

I can't imagine how difficult it would be to go through. We have worked with a lot of family's that have gone through a short sale and 1 that divorced. It can be difficult [at times] being married to begin with, add the additional stress of the short sale and I can't imagine how hard it would be.

Just passed my 3 year anniversary and I am always looking for advice. Got any? :)
.-= Alex - San Diego Short Salesu00c2u00b4s last blog ..Janet Yellen comes to San Diego! =-.

I've dealt with folks who stress out to the max, people who got divorced before the short sale went through, and others who could really care less. I really feel for everyone who has to short sell their house, but I think a strong couple would be drawn closer together in this situation.
.-= Atlanta Short Sale Listingsu00c2u00b4s last blog ..Over 400 Current Short Sales in Atlanta, GA =-.

Hey Justin -

As the others said, thanks for sharing that personal story with everyone. I'm sorry to hear that this was such a trying experience for you; sadly, many, many other people will have to undergo the same experience if the market continues to do what many of us believe it will do. Most of my closest friends are quite upside down on their property and I foresee quite a few of them undergoing the same trying times. I hope everything turns out for you and your family.

Best, Josh

Sorry to hear of your personal difficulties. I don't think I would blog about mine. Good Luck. I hope there is redemption for those that fall from their stead.

Handled very well, my friend.

I usually tell short sale sellers that they'll probably hate me by the time the short sale is over (because as we all know short sales take much longer than the average person's patience allows for and sellers get tired of me bugging them for the same updated bank statements and pay stubs etc. over and over again). I've not had very deliberate conversations about how they might feel about each other, though. I'll be adding that.

Financial complications are never easy on any relationship but I'd be curious to see if there was a difference in the stress on relationships between a "only-option-other-than-foreclosure" short sale effort vs a "strategic default" short sale. Does the background thought of there being another way pit one person against the other? Food for thought...

Now on to healing that apathy!
.-= Shar Rundiou00c2u00b4s last blog ..Happy 98th Birthday, Arizona!!! =-.

Real estate agents I guess need to get their psychology degree too. Next time get an agent who has both, and no, I dont

More serious note, as always another great post McHood. Keep it up, you may actually have a future as a blogger some day.
.-= Dean Ouelletteu00c2u00b4s last blog ..Top 10 real estate posts of the day for 2/24/2010 =-.

Justin,

Great perspective. Financial challenges as we know are the #1 reason for marital issues. your post hit on THE reason why I love short sales! Its not just another sale, Its an opportunity to help and service a family or individual.

Justin,

I tip my hat to you for pouring it all out there. I guess the hard reality is that no matter how much it makes sense, no matter how obvious the choice to short sell is, it's still going to have a strain within your relationship. Emotions will always surface.

You just did a service to people. At the very least, they know that they aren't the only ones with strain. Just part of the process....