I have a Twitter friend who has been house shopping (I’m not her Realtor. It’s not weird. People can have other Realtors and be my friend. Stop trying to make it weird; it’s not. You’re making me feel awkward.).
Last week she sent a tweet about how they made an offer:
Homeowners: what did you do to occupy yourself while waiting to hear if your offer was approved? #goinginsane
I think this is an excellent question and I have lots of thoughts. But first let’s talk about what NOT to do.
Things NOT to Do:
1. Figure out how to configure your furniture in the house.
2. Pick out paint colors.
3. Decide if you can’t have THIS VERY HOUSE you want no house at all. You’d rather live on the streets and die of exposure than live anywhere but this house.
4. Order a moving truck.
5. Dream about how you will raise the children you have yet to procreate, in this house. Imagine how you’ll bring them home from the hospital, send them off to the first day of kindergarten and take pictures of them at prom in this house.
6. Lament your offer and wish you could have gone in higher because it would have been worth it if you get it.
7. Find other houses on the internet and decide there’s probably a more perfect one out there and you don’t even want this one any more.
Things TO Do:
1. Continue looking at other houses as they come on the market. Just because you’ve gone on a date with one house and you’re considering a commitment, it doesn’t mean you can’t still oogle other inventory. You’re not married yet.
3. Know that you made the strongest offer you were comfortable with, so if it goes to someone else, it’s OK because you couldn’t have afforded it anyway.
4. Realize new houses come on the market every day and that builders build the same floorplan 87 billion times, so if you found one that’s ”˜perfect’ it’s likely you’ll find another that’s similar eventually.
5. Know that every house has its faults. So if you don’t get the one with the built-in margarita table in the pool, you’ll probably get one with eight custom shoe racks in the master closet that will perfectly hold your extensive brightly colored athletic shoe collection.
6. Tell yourself “If it was meant to be, it will be.” (I usually hate this one because sometimes people use it as an excuse to make a futile or sub-par offer, but at some point in the process you have to know it’s no longer within your control and be at peace with that.)
7. Have another glass of wine.